Compliance Is NOT the Way Out of Abuse & Tyranny

Chasing moving goal posts is a never-ending game

What we are seeing happen in society now is very similar to what takes place in interpersonal abusive relationship dynamics. There’s a reason why people comply with tyranny on a larger scale as well.

A target of abuse will get slowly groomed into the trance of the abuser as the demands for compliance escalate over time.

At first it doesn't look like abuse. That’s why it’s so tricky.

Initially, it looks enticing. It appears to be the answer to a problem or struggle that the target has been feeling stressed about.

Maybe the target never felt special or chosen by anyone and suddenly they meet a person who makes them feel like they’re the most important thing in the world. Or maybe the target has financial struggles and they’re desperately trying to relieve those fears, so when they meet someone who promises to take care of them, it appears to be the answer to their problems.

Maybe the target is terrified of catching a disease that’s going around during a pandemic. So when their government promises safe and effective, life-saving solutions to that scary disease, they roll up their sleeve to reduce the anxiety and fear they’ve been trying to resolve for a long time.

Or maybe the target is exhausted from the ongoing coercive control limiting their life and movement, so when the government says they can have their freedom back if they participate in a medical experiment that will restore normality to the world, they comply because they just want to live.

Compliance is NOT the way out of the abuse and tyranny.

Why do people comply with abuse and tyranny? They get a temporary relief from the gnawing anxiety and fear.

Unfortunately, when dealing with abusers and tyrants, the goal posts just keep moving and any relief is only fleeting. The temporary alleviation of anxiety and fear becomes an addictive craving. It’s like getting dosed with an opiate. You’ll need more each time and you’ll also sacrifice more to get it.

They’ll tell you if you do this or that, you can get what you want or what was promised to you. Every time you do what they tell you to, they tell you it’s not enough and you need to do just a bit more. If you play that game, you’ll be endlessly chasing after impossible resolutions.

It's not a fixed goal. It might sound like it is. They often make big promises, but then as soon as they move the goal post again, they act like it’s the most normal, logical thing that was obvious since the beginning so you shouldn’t even question it.

Here are some examples of goal post moving that we’ve seen since 2020:

It’s just 2 weeks to flatten the curve.⁣

It’s just a mask.⁣

It’s just a few more mandates to keep you “safe”.⁣

It’s just a “vaccine”.⁣

It’s just a booster to extend your waning “protection”.

... and another “booster” to stay “up to date”... and another…….

It’s just a lockdown of the unvaccinated.

It’s just another lockdown for everyone during the surge of new cases.

It’s just a perpetual schedule of more injections to keep you “protected” and “healthy”.⁣

It’s just an app to prove you are worthy to participate in public human life.

It’s just a “Centre for National Resilience” internment camp “to support international travel and ensure the safety of the Australian community”.

It’s just… ad infinitum…

The carrot promise is "returning to normal" and "getting back to what you love" yet they keep moving the goal post and redefining what that really means.⁣

They will keep moving the goal post as long as people keep playing along.⁣

⁣Where will you draw the line and say enough compliance with the escalating abuse and tyranny?⁣

If you do what abusers and tyrants want, as soon as you do, they will change the terms of the game and move the goal post, demanding further efforts and sacrifices on your behalf.⁣

You can get stuck in this perpetual carrot chasing game.

Your frustration and fatigue keep increasing, creating a desperate desire to reach the goal.⁣ Eventually you'll be in so deep and have invested and sacrificed so much, you'll develop the slot machine syndrome. You won't want to walk away because each time you play, you keep telling yourself… This will be the time I win for good.⁣

This game goes on indefinitely until the abuser has completely drained the life force energy of the target and there’s nothing left to take.

But there’s another choice that’s easy to forget once you’re all in.

The only end to the insanity is to opt out of the game, to stop complying.

Complying with abuse will not lead to your freedom.⁣ Ask anyone who did what the school bullies wanted. It only got worse.

It’s never enough to fill their insatiable desire for control.⁣

Abusers keep taking. Enablers keep normalizing and complying.⁣ The abusers can only get away with it if they have enablers.

This is where our responsibility comes in.

This evil game only works with our participation.⁣ We can either maintain the abusive system or we can opt out. It’s not an easy decision, and both will come with risks, but only one of these paths leads to any real and lasting rewards for us and future generations.

Here are some tips for opting out:

• Do not give into the demands of abusers. That will not appease them, no matter how convincing they are when they make promises otherwise. They will keep demanding more and more.⁣ You can count on this like the sun rises in the morning.

• If you’ve already complied but you don’t want to any more, remind yourself that sometimes in life we make mistakes, or poor decisions, and go down the wrong road. You can still turn around. In those cases, you’ll need to be willing to accept that it’s time to cut your losses and grieve what was lost.

• Make conscious, intentional choices about what you want for yourself and your life in the long-term. You’re investing in the present for a better future. Be careful not to sacrifice your long-term peace, health and other core values for the instant gratification and temporary relief of anxiety and fear.

• Clearly define the terms and conditions of your life. If not, you’ll end up complying with, and consenting to, things you regret later. Write down a list of your limits, your non-negotiables. These are the hills you’re prepared to die on.

• Set boundaries to protect what matters to you. It’s not easy to enforce boundaries with manipulators because they don’t take no for an answer. They will try to bulldoze your boundaries or even use more sophisticated tactics like guilt-tripping, pity ploys and snake-tongued sweet-talking. As you set new boundaries and enforce them when tested, you’ll notice how your self-worth rises every time. Self-worth is an important immunity from abuse and manipulation.