Here We Go Again...
This is the part when we should see what's coming because we've already been here before
The abuse cycle is one of the most important topics for a target of abuse to learn about so they can recognize the Big Picture of what’s happening.
When a person is in the abuse, it’s hard for them to articulate what’s wrong exactly. They’re caught in the Cognitive Dissonance, a survival mechanism that makes their mind go into denial and focus on the “good” times or the “good” in the abuser.
At a subconscious level, they want to remember the good and forget about the bad.
The abuse cycle works to create Cognitive Dissonance through the flip-flopping between the two phases of the cycle:
idealization <-> devaluation
love-bombing <-> degradation
nice <-> cruel
calm <-> chaos
The abuser will go back and forth between these two sides of the same coin.
When the target is invested in the fantasy, they won’t realize it’s all part of the abuse. It causes confusion. The target will want to minimize the bad, justifying why those things happened or deleting it from their memory, while focusing on the good.
Yet even the “good” side of the abuse cycle is manipulation.
Idealization and love-bombing aren’t healthy behaviors. They’re a form of seduction, though not necessarily sexual, to draw a person closer, to extort their trust and to lock them in the trance.
Who doesn’t like when someone is telling you nice things about yourself?
People who have earned the gift of discernment don’t just lean into nice words any more. We have learned, through battles with evil, that nice isn’t a character trait; it’s a manipulation that some people use to get other people to like them and to get what they want.
Kindness is genuine.
Nice is a manipulation tactic.
There’s a subtle difference that only a healthy sense of discernment will recognize.
The most dangerous form of evil are those who disguise themselves in sheep’s clothing. They will tell you how they care about you and they just want the best for you, how they worry about you and only want to protect you and keep you safe.
These are lessons we usually learn the hard way.
Some of us have already recognized this is happening around the world and we are observing as society goes round and round through this cycle.
Many people are currently in the process of learning the hard way, but since we are all connected in the abusive system, we are all going to feel the pain in one way or another.
Biden is announcing that we should prepare to take on the burden of the reckless actions he’s taking.
This is the part when the abusers tell their targets what they’re doing and what’s going to happen.
They start building the tension as they tease feelings of fear and coming danger. Communications become muddy and confusing. Abusers often stonewall in response to questions regarding accountability or act like it’s normal and fine that this is happening and there must be something wrong with you for questioning it.
This build-up of tension due to the breakdown of communication and clear understanding about what’s happening causes anxiety to increase in the target. This puts a person in to the fight or flight brain state. For some people, this means fawning the abusers, placating and pleasing the perpetrators, in an attempt to reduce the anxiety and tension.
The abuse and degradation escalate over time into a sense of life threat. Soon the narrative will be cranked up to this level of intensity and these messages will be repeated day after day, inducing a freeze response.
Due to the stress this causes on the human neurological system, the targets will start to collapse. They become exhausted from the intense fear of death. They will get stuck in a state of debility-dependency-dread, despair and apathy, looking only for an escape so they can feel better.
This is when they will beg their abusers for a solution.
That’s when the abusers will step in with their pre-meditated solution that they wanted to drive us toward all along.
If this sounds familiar, it’s because you lived through it with the pandemic narrative and now you’re noticing the same patterns repeat. Problem > Reaction > Solution…
What was the love-bombing part of this new narrative?
For the recent weeks, we’ve been in another love-bombing phase. Some of the mandates and restrictions from the covid narrative were dropped and some freedoms were restored.
This is just like the part when a target in an abusive relationship confuses the temporary absence of abuse as love, and is willing to forget the transgressions that happened, minimizing that it wasn’t that bad.
That honeymoon transition segued into the love-bombing of the war narrative.
During this recent love-bombing phase, people who subscribe to the new mass formation are being praised as good people for changing their profile photo, posting the Ukranian flag, calling for the escalation of war, punishing and segregating Russian people for the acts of their government, chanting death to Putin and other displays of virtue-signaling.
I was shocked to see this sight on 20-W near Dallas, Texas. There are two car dealerships on the highway, always flying the USA flag next to the Texas flag. The Texas flag is something sacred here. Don’t mess with Texas. But the mass formation swept the liberal cities with the pandemic narrative, even here in Texas, and they walked right into this one too.
A recent poll in Canada showed that the people who subscribed to the prior mass formation, hook, line and sinker, are more likely to subscribe to the new one.
We are being told, yet again, that we must self-sacrifice for the collective.
They’re telling us that we must be willing to pay a lot more for gas, perhaps even accepting the rationing of gas and limitation of travel as this agenda progresses. But it’s okay because it’s for a clean conscience and you know, we must all do our part for climate change while the elite fly around in private jets.
They’re telling us we must be willing to endure food shortages and perhaps rationed food or even starvation, but it’s okay because it will reduce the obesity epidemic and the elite consider most of us useless eaters anyway.
Inflation will increase and we must be willing to pay a lot more for things or even not be able to afford to buy things at all, but it’s okay because it’s just temporary and it’s a small price to pay for us peasants while the elite aren’t affected at all.
We would be wise to heed these warnings from the abusers and prepare for the worst.
They are starting to tell us that the worst is coming and it’s going to get a lot worse before it gets better.
The abusers are not going to be there to help us when it most matters. Even if they do offer help, it’s best to not accept help from abusers because that only increases your dependency on them and that “help” will always come with strings attached. The more you accept their help, the easier it is to become like a rolling stone from one mass formation to the next.
Hopefully you’ve seen the writing on the wall since 2020 and have been preparing food, water and other supplies for the long-run. If not, it’s not too late. As they say, the best time to plant a tree was yesterday. The next best time is now.
One of the most important internal foundations you can work on is rebuilding or strengthening your self-worth. Your inner sense of worthiness will help you continue to adapt and find solid ground as the inevitable storm of chaos is brewing on the horizon.
Remember, the forces of evil have many tricks but their game is all about making you believe that you’re unworthy of the most basic human dignity so you will continue to comply and accept further degradation of your body, mind and spirit. This is why your self-worth is a powerful tool for spiritual warfare, like the battles that we are currently living in.
Here We Go Again...
Fantastic Meredith! Your writing is water for the soil of awareness and understanding. I for one am immensely grateful for your wisdom, compassion and inspiration! Rock on!!💪✌️
The graph about the Ukraine situation reflects what was brought to the surface by the Freedom Convoy in Canada: that if you scratch just a little below the surface, you find a lurking authoritarianism in Canadians, something I thought I'd never see in my country. Sad.