The ultimate goal of any abuser is control and more control. It's never enough and they always want more in this quest to feed the demons of greed and lust.
Of course abusers could also be interested in other resources like money. But it goes beyond money.
What does the money buy them? It gets them more control.
If we look at the global stage, what’s taking place around the world is about control. Some public officials have even admitted that it's not about health, it's about driving people to comply with the control measures.
Abusers will seek to maintain control at any cost.
It does not matter how many people they have to hurt or get rid of in the process. It's certainly easier to control small group of people than a large group. Perhaps that's why the Georgia Guidestones declared, written in stone, that the global population should be reduced to 500 million people.
Control is the ultimate goal of tyrants.
That's how all the abuse dynamics work. There is love-bombing and devaluation in the abuse cycle, which flips back and forth under the control of the abuser. On the global scale, they lock us down for a while then give us more freedoms back only to take them away again in an endless cycle that intensifies every time it repeats.
The abuse always escalates over time.
As soon as they sense they're losing control of people, they start seducing us back into the dynamic through the latest spin in the narrative. Every time the cycle repeats, the water temperature is turned up just a little more for the frog in the pot. The escalations must come in gradual increments so as to not pierce the denial of the target.
The way out of the Cognitive Dissonance is relentless confrontation with the truth and reality. This an important first step in liberation from tyranny and abuse.
The way out of the Big Picture of tyranny is self-responsibility.
This is the most important commitment a person can make to themselves. And it's not easy. It requires grit and the humility to face our truth, which means we have to be willing to see how we are participating in our own destiny.
Unfortunately most people stay stuck in the victimhood and infantilization hoping someone else will save them. And that's exactly where the abusers and tyrants want us. As long as we are living in a rescue fantasy, we won't take action to change things for the better as we’ll just keep pointing the finger and fighting amongst ourselves.
As each individual takes personal responsibility of their life and choices, and as we turn our lens inward to focus on resolving our own traumas, we will start to see positive change first in our own lives, and then in the world as more people are taking on the same commitment to themselves.
Self-responsibility is the threshold between powerlessness and empowerment.
We are all born into a world of trauma. The traumas are individual and collective.
There are transgenerational traumas that get passed down unresolved through the lineage of families like an unconscious inheritance. (ie: pedophilia, incest, abuse, poverty)
There are also historical traumas affecting large groups of people and the collective consciousness within those groups. (ie: the Holocaust, wars, pandemics, natural disasters)
Additionally there are all the personal traumas that each of us goes through during our initiation experiences in this life. Even birth can be traumatic. Sometimes we don't recognize how traumatic certain experiences were because they got normalized, repressed or numbed out in the fight for survival.
The tyranny happening around the world is an invitation to transformation.
It would be wise for us to not just focus externally on the abusers and tyrants (though they certainly will need to be held accountable for their actions), but also to turn our lens inward and ask the tougher questions:
What are the unresolved traumas, conflicts and incoherences within myself?
How am I participating in my life circumstances?
What choices do I have?
What do I really want?
The premise of my coaching work with abuse victims has always been founded upon taking greater self-responsibility.
In abuse recovery, you can see in comments on YouTube videos about these topics that the majority of people is still in the victim stage. They are focused on, even sometimes obsessed with, the abuser. They aren't making the commitment of self-responsibility to get across that first threshold into empowerment. These are often the same people who yell "victim-shaming" when they hear the word "responsibility".
Personal responsibility has become a dirty word, relegated to the dregs of “extremist, right-wing” thinking like many other concepts that disrupt the Official Narrative and must be dismissed.
What does it say about a society when values such as personal responsibility become politically-affiliated and smeared?
I see the same pattern in the world as I’ve seen in the abuse recovery niche. Most people are still in the victimization stage, unable or unwilling to take responsibility over their lives, hoping that the government or a hero in red cape will come along and save them. Some political parties even run campaigns based on promises of entitlements for victimhood as they provoke and stoke the raging fires of people’s legitimate pain and injustices.
It's tempting to stay in the victimhood because in that stage a person can remain blameless for their own choices and participation in life. It's always someone else's fault, poor me.
Inevitably we need to allow ourselves some space and time for self-pity. We are human after all and this is a stage in the process of maturing into empowerment through self-responsibility. So kick and scream and throw a toddler temper tantrum in the privacy of your home to get it out of your system, then put on your big boy/big girl boots and let’s get to work on moving forward.
There is definitely truth in that abusers are responsible for their own acts which are never the victim's fault. It’s not fair, or right, what abusers and tyrants do to other people. AND we are the only ones who can do something about it now.
We have to save ourselves.
We have to take responsibility for our part of the Bigger Picture.
We individuals form the collective.
As more individuals work to heal and take responsibility for ourselves, our choices, what value we are producing and contributing to the world around us, even if that's just in our families or small social circle locally... that spreads like a positive contagion and becomes a powerful force that heals the world.
Another mistake is to focus on trying to change the world out there.
That's actually a form of spiritual bypassing to avoid the tough personal work that we each need to face and do. Ufff, read that again.
The change takes place inside. That's the only part we have control over.
The learned helplessness caused by abuse over time leaves a person feeling complete loss of control. So people give up. They go into states of despair, which makes them easy to control. It happens at the individual level and spreads to form an immobile, apathetic society surrendered to the mercy of tyrants.
So what can we take control over?
Not everything out there... but instead, what's inside.
Stiftung Corona Ausschuss (Berlin Corona Investigative Committee) dialog with Reiner Fuellmich, Viviane Fischer and Meredith Miller.
Thank you Meredith. I believe we can save ourselves but biggest problem is controlled opposition. People join groups and trust people that are just pretending to be on our side. Sadly lot of real opposition is assassinated quietly and fake ones get all the attention. It is the most covert abuse and deception on many levels. All big names out there on 'truth' side are actually counter intelligence agents, their job is to discredit, mislead and distract. Their way to destroy any real opposition from the inside.
Well articulated with sound research - it's good to have confirmation of what I've been thinking & feeling 🙂