The Abuse Always Escalates

The best time to get out is before the devil shows his horns

People often ask abuse survivors why they didn’t leave or why they didn’t see it. It’s very difficult to see when you’re in it. It’s like being in a hypnotic trance. Once a person realizes and gets out of the abuse, it’s often shocking for them to look back and realize what they tolerated.

Hindsight is 2020. Maybe that’s going to be the morbid cosmic joke some years down the road after people have seen where this global situation goes, and they ask, how could such a thing have happened? Looking back in retrospect at the year 2020, it will seem quite clear that hindsight is indeed 2020.

There is a predictable pattern of abusive behavior in interpersonal relationships just as there is for abusive behavior by tyrants upon a society.

A lot of people notice the uncanny similarities of experiences among abuse victims from different countries, cultures, races, genders and socio-economic backgrounds. When they speak of the abuse, they say it’s like they all read the same book. The patterns are almost identical in ways that are seemingly impossible. I have a theory on that, more in a future article.

It’s important to understand that abuse doesn’t start where it ends.

It starts slowly, with gradual increments over time in order to avoid setting off alarm bells. Every time a person goes through that abuse cycle in a relationship, things intensify. The abuse escalates. The victim’s tolerance to the abuse also escalates.

Abuse always escalates and things are getting crazier every day.

We already have historic examples, many of them actually, of the patterns we are watching happen around the world nowadays. The most well-known one is Nazi Germany, where we can see eerily similar steps that took place during the early parts of 10+ years of escalation before the liberation.

When people dismiss the current parallels to Nazi Germany, it’s because they lack perspective.

They’re comparing the final product (concentration camps, torture, mass murder) with what we are seeing in the world right now. They are correct that this hasn’t happened, yet, but what they don’t understand is how it gets there in gradual steps.

It makes sense that many people have this limited perspective because that’s the only part I remember hearing about in history class too.

They didn’t teach us in school about the escalation over time of gradually increasing public policies, narrative spinning and violations against human rights that laid the groundwork for such a thing to happen years after it started.

First, the dehumanization and demonization of minorities began.

They started promoting the ideology that Jewish people were diseased and dangerous. They had already been indoctrinating doctors and medically trained academics into their eugenics science for decades before that. The Nazis were able to convince doctors to accept Jews as a source of “biologic degeneration”. Their “racial hygiene” included, together with the Jews, the disabled, the mentally ill, those with diseases like tuberculosis and STDs as well as other minority groups such as gypsies, dissidents and people of different ethic backgrounds.

“Volksgesundheit” (public health) was declared priority over individual autonomy in health care. This ideology justified no limit to the medical atrocities and abuse of human rights.

In the 1930s, people had to start carrying the “Gesundheitspaß” (health pass) in order to participate in public life. This was still years before the rest of the world got involved or really had any idea that something nefarious was going on there. American and other foreign corporations were still doing business with the Nazis at the time.

They started banning Jews from public places (restaurants, cafés, bars, theaters, cinemas, concerts, pools, museums, libraries, sports, parks, etc.). Their “public health” policies spread into Nazi occupied territory like this document from France shows.

Do these patterns look familiar?

Of course this time it’s a bit more sophisticated. They’re not openly talking about eugenics science and “racial hygiene”. That’s already been played and would be too obvious. Instead, the science this time is founded on advancing technological control and the ideology of transhumanism, the merging of humans with technology. They openly speak of this at the World Economic Forum as the opportunity being presented by COVID19.

Maybe we need to drop a pin in the map to make it more clear:

Whether a person took the experimental injectables or not, that’s not the point. The point is that dehumanization, segregation and apartheid are dangerous. These ideologies and public policies inevitably lead to the same tragedy, even when it’s couched in “public health” or other seemingly noble “scientific” justifications. The more covert “for the good of all” tactics just make the tyranny easier for people to swallow.

These patterns are the warning signs of what is to come.

There are always red flags of abuse before it gets bad. The tricky part is to recognize the warning signs before it gets to that point.

People often judge abuse survivors for not leaving sooner. I think many people around the world are currently in the process of learning the hard way why abuse victims don’t leave before it gets bad.

It’s always best to get out before the devil shows his horns.

That means leaving while the abuse and control tactics are still subtle and before the real damage has been done. Leaving at that point requires an extraordinary feat of intuition because there’s usually no easy proof yet.

If an abuse victim tries to tell others what’s happening before the signs are overt, it’s likely people won’t believe the victim. Instead they’ll say things like “I’m sure s/he loves you and wants the best for you” or “you’re reading too much into that”.

Now we know these are similar minimization catch phrases that people also use in society about what’s happening during the early phases of tyranny… “Public health officials care about saving lives” and “you’re being paranoid, this is about the health of everybody.”

It may sometimes seem obvious to an outsider that another person is being abused. But it’s not usually so obvious to the person who is still in it.

Likewise the same can happen to a society. It’s easy to look back in history from the outside and feel morally superior to those who enabled such a thing as the Nazi regime, but we have the advantage of retrospect.

I think the answer is becoming clear now how such a thing could’ve happened like in Nazi Germany.

Some people launch ad hominem attacks (smear campaigns to discredit someone’s character in order to dismiss what they’re saying) and red herring arguments (misdirection, in this case toward false accusations of racism or anti-semitism, in order to distract from the original topic) when these comparisons are brought up, but that doesn’t dismiss the truth. It only reveals an accomplice to tyranny.

The history books also didn’t talk about the enablers, those who did nothing and said nothing when witnessing the abuse of human rights happening around them, or worse yet, those who were complicit in the tyranny by snitching on other people or attacking those who were calling out the abuse.

One day future generations will also judge us for the roles we are playing right now. What stories will you tell when people ask you what you did during these times?

We are not responsible for what the abusers and tyrants do. We are only responsible for our own actions and choices.

It's very important to remember that every abusive system, whether a family, workplace, social group or society, contains abusers and enablers.

The enablers are the ones who maintain the abusive system, whether they realize it or not.

If everyone else walked away from the abusers, we would liberate ourselves and the abusers would remain powerless, mediocre and alone without targets to control and abuse. What happens when a parasite runs out of hosts? It starves.

Many times in human history, people have been faced with growing tyranny and they had to choose between standing up for their human rights or complying with the abuse. Both are risky.

Which future would you prefer for you, your children and grandchildren?

The longer the grooming and abuse goes on, the easier it is to forget that we are sovereign beings.⁣

Individual sovereignty means that each of us has authority, self-ownership, over our own life.⁣ This is our God-given birthright.

Abusers position themselves as the authority over the lives of others.⁣ They use gaslighting and grooming over time to slowly get their victims to surrender their sovereignty and autonomy. It’s usually very enticing. Abusers can be very convincing, and often seemingly helpful in order to induce this process. Most often, they will wield promises of "safety", “protection” and "security" to prey upon the unmet needs and desires of the target.

You have the right to claim individual sovereignty over your body, mind and soul. Here are some inquiries that can help you in the process of restoring autonomy:

• What decisions are you outsourcing to others that you need to reclaim agency over? We can gain a greater sense of control over our life by owning the areas in which we could be taking more self-control instead of giving that power and responsibility to someone else.

• Are there any areas of your life, or particular relationships in your life, where you’re currently sacrificing your authenticity? If so, take an inventory of those relationships and situations to see how you can bring in more of the authentic you or if you need to walk away in order to maintain your authenticity.

• Are there any projects, relationships or situations you’re participating in that go against your values and goals? Take an inventory of those projects and situations so you can determine ways of integrating your values more and aligning them with your goals. If that’s not possible, then ask yourself why you’re still investing in those projects, relationships and situations.

• Are there any areas of your life in which you feel powerless because you’re trying to control something that’s out of your control? These are the things you can work on releasing so you can lighten your load of unnecessary stress.