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The Pandemic of Disconnection

Connection is the resistance... and it's contagious too
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Before the radical changes in the world started in 2020, I used to think the pandemic was narcissism and psychopathy.

Now after the first couple years of this global shift taking place, I’m realizing that the pandemic is actually more about the disconnection caused by these abusive and manipulative characters and the spiritual forces of darkness that drive them.

The perpetrators are like a virus and the dis-ease they cause is disconnection.

There are also additional influences contributing to the contagion of disconnection. For example, the news, entertainment, social media, algorithms, our increasing dependency on technological devices and the effects of these on the human nervous system.

The perpetrators use all of the above as tools to isolate individuals, while giving them the perception of being connected, then they coerce people into a group identity so they can be divided and conquered.

There is a growing sense of disconnection happening in society and within individuals. Many people are experiencing something of an existential crisis where they feel alone and lost. This lonely desperation can drive people to subscribe to the next mass formation and the next one…

The isolation isn’t just physical. It also plagues the human mind and soul.

These more invisible dimensions of loneliness are perhaps the most devastating.

If you’ve experienced loneliness in a relationship, family, workplace, social group or even when living in a big city surrounded by millions of people, you can probably relate to how devastating that feels. People, people everywhere and not a connection in sight.

It’s possible, and even a common experience, to be surrounded by people without feeling a safe, real and deep connection. In those cases, it can feel more lonely with people than when alone.

As mammals, humans rely upon social connection to regulate the nervous system and to feel safe.

While it can be helpful, relieving and validating to connect with people online, our interactions through social media and other digital life are not the same as real human connection.

Remember this in the coming years when they try to sell us the metaverse and virtual reality as a replacement for, or augmentation of, real human connection. They will use words like “socialization” and “more connected” to make it sound nice.

As ridiculous as it sounds (and looks, see below) they’re going to make it appear very attractive to escape real life and enter the virtual reality of fantasy. If you think a lot of people are disconnected from reality now, just wait until this becomes a common form of escape!

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You literally have to cover your eyes, all three of them. Blocking your breathing hole is optional.

Eventually that VR contraption will become cumbersome and people might even line up to have electrodes installed in their brain so they can have unlimited access anytime, anywhere, to the metaverse. 15 of the 23 monkeys in the Neuralink trials died or were euthanized. Last century experiments were done on humans who were implanted with electrodes in their brains. Every one of them went insane and died. There’s a fantastic documentary by Truthstream Media called Minds of Men that explains this science project as well as how that relates to behavior modification and mind control. It’s well worth the three hours.

It’s already shocking to see how detached some people are from reality. They’re actually living in an entirely different reality, which they believe is real. When truth comes out, shattering their reality, they are quickly re-directed into the next narrative of distorted reality.

The metaverse combined with the Internet of Bodies (IoB) is going to bring a whole other level of insanity and delusional psychosis as people voluntarily plug themselves into the Matrix and, over time, lose touch with real life and individual sovereignty.

Will we one day look back and agree to call this child abuse?

What is this disconnection doing to the soul of humanity?

It seems like we are far from that now, but that’s not what I see. The path of gradual escalation through a grooming process is already leading us there. Socially engineered exponential leaps will soon close the gap between where we are now and full-on transhumanism. It is a war on our humanity.

The human spirit is under attack through the debility dependency dread conditioning.

In such a state of despair and powerlessness, people feel like there’s no way out. So they’re desperate for an escape, even a temporary alleviation of their anxiety and pain.

For the last two years, we’ve all become more reliant upon digital means of communication for work and personal life. We are becoming accustomed to less in-person interaction. This is part of the social engineering process leading us into a more distanced and virtual world.

People are being exhausted and debilitated through the ongoing trauma and a growing sense of not being able to do anything about it.

The longer we are disconnected, the more challenging it is to reconnect.

Chronic social isolation changes the nature of the nervous system and starts to deteriorate the brain and body quickly. Chronic stress hormones become elevated. This negatively impacts the drive for social bonding and the immune system suffers too.

Prolonged isolation makes social connection more difficult because people begin to feel irritable and aggressive.

This very relevant information comes from Dr. Andrew Huberman, a Stanford University School of Medicine neuroscientist and professor, in his Huberman Lab Podcast #51 Science of Social Bonding in Family, Friendship & Romantic Love. At the top of this post, there’s a short clip from the episode.

Dr. Huberman cites emerging literature in neuroscience from CalTech and Harvard that shows that prolonged isolation leads to irritability and aggression toward others due to elevated levels of tachykinins.

Dr. Huberman explains more about this discovery of tachykinins in Huberman Lab Podcast #49 Erasing Fears & Traumas Based on the Modern Neuroscience of Fear.

“Trauma is a chronic disruption of connectedness,” says Dr. Stephen Porges, the creator of the Polyvagal Theory.

In abusive relationships, the perpetrator will systematically destroy the target’s life, pillar by pillar… their work, finances, self-worth, social connections, family, physical and mental health, spiritual connection, etc.

In order for total destruction to be effective, abusers must isolate the target from their support system and outside perspectives.

The isolation from outside perspectives is one of the parameters of the Stockholm Syndrome, a key part of the trauma that’s taking place now in society.

The pandemic that will effect humans for generations is the disconnection.

Years from now, we will look back at the early 2020s and realize that it wasn’t the virus that carried the highest toll on human life. The masks, lockdowns, experimental injections and other public health policies have greatly contributed to deteriorating physical, mental, financial and spiritual health around the world, even in babies. Brown University researchers found that pandemic babies have a 22% lower IQ.

Yet it might not become clear for most people that the real pandemic is the disconnection, until they are looking back years later in retrospect.

The disconnection started, mostly invisibly, decades before the 2020s. Social isolation has been increasing slowly over time with the adoption of technology and the ways humans have adapted to the technology, even though it gives us the perception of being more connected around the world.

Humans created technology in our biological image. Your devices speak a binary language as your nervous system does. So naturally our brains and bodies are changing through our exposure to technology, and one of the areas of human life that appears to be most affected is social bonding.

In the recent couple years, public “health” policies are greatly exacerbating the social isolation and causing many more problems than they’re solving.

The idea of social isolation has become normalized and even promoted as “safe” in recent years. However, the truth is now being revealed.

Researchers at Johns Hopkins University have recently concluded that lockdowns had no noticeable effect on reducing covid-related deaths and had a devastating effect on economies and social ills.

“We find no evidence that lockdowns, school closures, border closures, and limiting gatherings have had a noticeable effect on COVID-19 mortality.”

“They have contributed to reducing economic activity, raising unemployment, reducing schooling, causing political unrest, contributing to domestic violence, and undermining liberal democracy,” the report said.

It wasn’t too hard to have predicted these inevitable effects a couple years ago. It was the fear of the virus that blinded many people from seeing where this was going. This data is validating what a lot of us, even those of us who aren’t scientists or doctors, knew all along would happen. For others, this is probably something they felt was off, but much like an abuse victim, their mind rationalized that everything was okay based on the plausible deniability of the public health mantras. It’s for our good, right?

It’s getting more difficult to assume incompetence (they just don’t know the damage they’re doing) over malice (the intent to do harm). One clue is how the perpetrators didn’t accept accountability or express remorse for what they did to society. Instead, they evaded the questions and quickly pivoted to the next crisis.

Fear of the other is replacing a sense of human connection.

Just look around when you’re out in public. Try to make eye contact with people. Can you make a human connection?

Do people make eye contact with you?

What if you say hi to passersby, do they respond or do they look at you like a deer in headlights?

Do they look away and just pretend you don’t exist or worse yet, do they look at you in horror as you’re approaching them?

Where are you finding people who are more receptive to you?

It was hard to pinpoint exactly what was going on in society before all this ramped up a couple years ago. But there was definitely something happening before anyone ever heard the word Covid.

I could sense it when I observed people at social gatherings, or with their family and friends in restaurants, bars and cafes, or even couples on dates. If you looked around, most people were doing something on their phone or tablet, creating disconnection and absence instead of connection and presence. There was often a palpable sense of disconnection in the superficial interactions, even among the laughs and loud, passionate voices. Something was missing.

Of course there have always been some deeper human connections. I experience this with my closest friends and I’ve also observed these sorts of connections in public, albeit very rarely.

Maybe you have some of these true connections in your life too. These are the relationships of authentic substance. There is a reciprocal presence. You can speak about real things, even controversial topics, without feeling like you have to hide your authenticity, dim your light or walk on eggshells to avoid the landmines of guardedness, defensiveness, judgment and fakery.

In real connections, you can feel a deeper sense of shared experience, presence, emotional and spiritual intimacy rather than just superficial small talk or hiding behind devices.

One blessing that came out of the post-2020 shift in the world is that it’s so much easier now to discern those who are aligned with our core values and those who aren’t.

Commonality of core values is an important filter for friendship, dating, relationships and also for finding the right workplace, colleagues or other social organizations where there’s a match of shared values.

We don’t all have to share core values, yet the filter of matching values is a necessary part of who we allow close in our inner circles. Those core relationships very much affect who we are and who we become, so being selective about this is an act of self-responsibility.

Of course that doesn’t mean that everyone who professes to have certain values lives in integrity with those values. People say a lot of things, but their patterns of action reveal what really matters to them.

Strong and coherent families and communities are formed among people with shared values. Family does not always imply related by blood. Sometimes family is chosen.

During the last two years, we’ve been invited to look within and see what really matters.

This has been an invitation to clarify our personal core values so we can align our internal holistic connection of body-mind-spirit.

That internal alignment and coherence makes it much easier to find the right relationships and allies in order to move through these difficult times together and rebuild with afterward.

This global crisis has also been an invitation to create a new personal connection with the Creator of All that Is.

The pandemic of disconnection in our world has been a calling for true connection, an invitation to discover and grow.

Connection is the Resistance.

When we connect wholeheartedly with self, others, and the Divine, something miraculous happens.

These real connections are rare experiences that metaphysically connect us with a spiritual force much bigger than us as individuals.

The experience and effects of a whole connection are often observed as something magical, yet this is a natural part of who we are as holistic beings. We’ve mostly just forgotten because this isn’t part of pop culture, it’s often not spoken of in families, and we surely don’t see it in the news. Some of us have traveled to remote places on this Earth to connect with teachers who opened us to such experiences.

If you reflect on it, how many people in your life do you get to share a true connection with?

These are the connections founded on reciprocal presence, acceptance, honesty and self-responsibility.

These are connections with people with whom you share your core values, and people who also live in integrity with those values, so there’s a deep level of trust grounded in reality.

Think about the last time you were alone somewhere and saw something amazing like pink clouds at sunset, a rainbow or the big, beautiful moon rising. Who was the first person you thought of and wished you could share that experience with?

Mutual witnessing is an important part of the healing aspect of connection.

This need is built into our nervous system as mammals. We experience cues of safety, homeostasis and healing when we are in co-regulation, a reciprocal witnessing of each other via eye contact, facial expressions and sometimes physical touch.

Through neuroception, our nervous systems connect with each other when we are in physical proximity, sharing information that we are mostly unaware of.

One of Stephen Porges’ foundational tenets of the Polyvagal Theory is that safety optimizes the human experience and homeostasis, so feeling safe is a necessary part of the healing process.

The perception of safety takes place at a neurological level.

Governments restraining liberties and human rights is not the path of safety, even though they tell us it is and many people believe they just want to protect us.

Social distancing is not the path of creating a sense of safety in the human nervous system and among humans, even though they tell us staying apart keeps us together.

The physiological, psychological and spiritual consequences of this trauma aren’t temporary.

This is going to leave a long-lasting imprint on even those of us who are resilient enough to keep persevering with grit through the trials and tribulations. We will need to continue working on self-healing as more events unfold in our changing world.

For others, the ongoing crises could cause their breaking point from which they might never recover. Many children now will likely grow up, unable to undo the damage caused by the fear conditioning during their formative years, to make up for the developmental interruptions or to heal from the devastating sense of disconnection that programmed their brain and nervous system in early life.

Having a sense of real social connection with others with whom we feel safe and share core values is an important part of our recovery process and also a key component of thriving through the stressful times we are living in now.

While there is the important internal work of self-regulation that each of us can only do for ourselves, our social connections, and the co-regulation that takes place, also help to maintain the health and optimization of our body, mind and spirit.

Social connection was wired into our nervous system so we can have mutual healing experiences in the presence of others.

Feeling safe through connection puts the Autonomic Nervous System in a state of exploration and creativity with access to resources of higher consciousness and spontaneous social behavior. This keeps a person out of states of defense and collapse. Feeling safe through connection also optimizes homeostasis, the body’s own ability to move toward balance.

We actually heal ourselves and others through reciprocal presence and connection.

Feeling threatened or in danger compromises homeostasis. Isolation is also a cue of danger, or even life threat, to the mammalian brain. The neurological state of perceived life threat over time can cause numbness, dissociation, collapse, a metabolic shutdown and even decreased immune system functioning.

People who have a history of isolation due to unresolved trauma are probably struggling more now with the imposed social distancing than those who don’t have this personal history.

Yet those who have come out the other side of the trauma, working on the healing and integration of the past, develop a strong resilience to survive as well as an ability to form healthy connections with true allies who mutually encourage each other to keep healing and growing.

When we are unable to feel connected with others, that loneliness makes us susceptible to spiritual attack.

John Eldredge wrote in Wild At Heart:

“Before an effective military strike can be made, you must take out the opposing army’s line of communication. The Evil One does this all the time — in ministries and especially between couples… So just like in the Garden of Eden, Satan comes in to divide and conquer.”

This applies beyond ministries and couples to our relationships with close friends, family, coworkers and even our more peripheral social acquaintances.

When we aren’t approaching our connections with sincerity, presence and conscious intention, and instead with fear, hatred or walls, that creates ambiguity, absence and distance, which eventually grows into a great divide.

When distance is created instead of connection between people, that’s like an open invitation to the dark forces to come in and fill the void.

Confusion is usually the first sign of the darkness invasion. It’s also one of the earliest signs an abuse victim will notice.

It’s subtle at first but then becomes more intense and pervasive. This feeling of confusion grows over time and it can drive people apart, making them feel isolated, alone and misunderstood.

It’s best to clear up the confusion with honest, direct communication before it gets worse. When you try to clear up the confusion and another person responds with more ambiguity, silence or evasion, that’s not a good sign.

Disconnection is also caused in abusive systems through the divide and conquer tactic. This game in society is more clear now than ever. The perpetrators reward people for participating in the black and white narratives that divide us. We are punished and smeared for gathering in unity against the abuse.

The same story is happening all over the world, tailored to the local and cultural or historical themes of wounding. People are being driven apart in too many ways for this to be a coincidence. It sure seems like it’s all part of social engineering.

Fighting each other is a trap. This is how we participate in our own disconnection and demise. Divide and conquer is a weapon of mass distraction. It’s a favorite tool of the Evil One.

Dr. Mattias Desmet says that in a totalitarian system, there is only one social bond permitted, that of the State with the individual, not bonds between individuals.

This is exactly what happens in an abusive family or other social group. The abuser will carefully triangulate the others amongst themselves so they distrust each other and each one of them will pledge their allegiance only to the abuser.

By now we’ve all likely experienced shifts in our social connections and the people we choose to be close to us. For many of us, this process involved some devastating losses. Yet you might also be realizing that the relationships remaining and the new ones forming during the recent years are much more aligned with your core values and life purpose.

⁣The more the social engineers try to drive us apart, the more important it is to focus on cultivating healthy connections. Our connections are either inspiring us to grow or they are distracting us from growth.

Here are some ways of optimizing your sense of connection to overcome the isolation:

  • Encourage and contribute direct, transparent communication in your relationships. Ask questions for clarification when things are ambiguous or vague.

  • Offer the gift of presence to yourself and others. Consciously bring your awareness down from your head and into your body. Breathe. Listen, feel, notice what’s there.

  • Make eye contact with others and notice with curiosity instead of expectation.

  • Make a conscious effort to avoid distractions when you’re spending time with yourself in solitude or with your friends and other loved ones.

  • Take some time daily, preferably outdoors in nature, for connecting with your Creator as if you were talking with a friend.

  • Take an inventory of your priorities. We are all busy. Are you prioritizing time and energy for what (and who) really matters to you?

  • Strike up a conversation with random people in public who seem approachable.

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Meredith Miller